Marriage Matters

Dear Heavenly Father,

Most often, the world teaches us women how we “ought to” position and posture ourselves in order to be “found”. But too often, what has been forgotten is the position and posture “once found”.

God, I humble myself and ask that you forgive me and all other wives who have forsaken you first, and then our husbands—especially in those times when what’s in front of us does not “look like” what we prayed for.

Years ago, I learned that my submission to my husband had very little to do with him and EVERYTHING to do with you. Still, over time and as I have entertained the teachings of others who claim to have figured this marriage thing out, I now realize as the seasons of life changes so does one’s understanding of submission thus, what I understood about submission one year ago, five years ago, ten years ago is not the same 13 1/2 years in!

Truth is, I have been so concerned with my own healing journey that I stopped earnestly and honestly seeking you about what this new season would mean for me as a wife and my husband as a man.

Time and time again, I would point out the obviousness of his need for his own version of a healing journey and how his expression of pain was directly affecting me however, I cannot recall once where I sought you in a posture and position of submission as to how I could walk alongside him as he endeavors to heal.

Just as the little girl in me needed and still needs healing, so does the little boy in him. I realize my words often communicated this however, my position and posture often spoke something differently.

My intention was not to make him feel ashamed, but shame was the consequence, thus instead of bringing those things to light and getting help for what he hated most about himself, he LEARNED to continue to hide—and I played a part in that… I WAS NOT ALWAYS A SAFE SPACE!!!

So, I repent before you (turning away from what I now realize was wrong) and I apologize to him. Much of my healing has been for the better however, I now realize that my headiness and arrogance of it all, sometimes denied him safety—I was not always a safe space!

Father, I request that you guide me. I humble myself before you and ask that as I posture and position myself in THIS SEASON of submission, that you would go before me—before us, as we walk alongside and submit to each other in demonstration of our submission to you.

Father, thank you for the opportunity to learn and to grow! Holy Spirit, I request that you intercede for us. It is true that we have a responsibility to make intercession for each other, however you know exactly what we need, and we can trust you.

Thank you in advance!

Amen!