The Missing Piece Is the Peace

There’s a certain kind of exhaustion that comes from trying to be understood by someone who has already decided not to understand you.

Not because you haven’t been clear.

Not because you haven’t explained yourself.

But because they’ve made a covenant with confusion.

Yes, a covenant.

Some people don’t want clarity. They want control. And if confusion keeps them in control—of the narrative, the outcome, or even your peace—they will cling to it like a lifeline.

These are the moments you have to be careful.

Because if you’re not, you’ll find yourself over-explaining.

Over-apologizing.

Over-extending.

You’ll confuse their unwillingness with your inadequacy.

You’ll start second-guessing your voice, your truth, your intention.

But let me be real with you:

That’s not humility. That’s not grace.

That’s a trauma response.

It’s the habit of trying to fix what someone else refuses to heal.

It’s the muscle memory of trying to earn safety through performance.

It’s the echo of past wounds saying, “If they’re upset, it must be your fault.”

But hear me clearly:

You are not responsible for untangling someone else’s lies.

Especially when they’re committed to them.

When you try to wrestle with someone who’s made a home in confusion,

you will become confused yourself.

You’ll twist, shrink, and silence parts of you that were never the problem.

So step back.

Take a breath.

And remember this:

The missing piece… is the peace.

And the truth is,

you don’t need their validation to walk in it.

Final Thought:

So, what do you do when confusion knocks?

Don’t answer.

What do you say when lies get loud?

Stand in truth.

How do you move when peace feels far?

Walk like it’s yours.

Who are you when the world won’t see you?

I am chosen.

I am whole.

I am free.

Say it with your chest:

I am chosen. I am whole. I am free.

The missing piece is the peace.

And Sis,

I found it in me.